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At the MOMENT when a guy is trying to work up the nerve to go up to a woman, it's far more relaxing to do NOTHING. Of course, regret kicks in later, but when the opportunity arises again, the same pattern takes hold- at the MOMENT, doing NOTHING feels safer, more relaxing. So how do you get yourself to TAKE ACTION at the MOMENT you NEED to?
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And the list goes on and on...
Now, I realize that these statements are actually different from each other, and deal with different issues. But the common denominator in each of them is: YOU'RE NOT BEHAVING IN A WAY THAT IS PUSHING HER ATTRACTION BUTTONS. IN MOST OF THESE CASES, YOU'RE GUILTY OF TRYING TO BORE HER INTO FEELING ATTRACTED TO YOU. I got one letter recently where a guy was telling me that he had taken a girl out on a date, but that there wasn't any *spark*... but he still felt attracted to the girl. He seemed to think that just because nothing obvious was BAD about the date, that this girl should also feel attracted to him. (Maybe he thought that a few more uninteresting, boring dates would cause her to open her eyes and see the light). Here are a few common problems that lead to *BORING DATE-ITIS*: 1. Playing it *safe*, following her lead, not saying anything you think will upset her, and making sure that you're *proper*. 2. Talking about BORING things like jobs, family, weather, etc. because it's *what people talk about to get to know each other.* 3. Being boring. |
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